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I don’t know how to dress now that I’m into my 40s and feel torn
There are so many rules about what Clothing is age appropriate and then there's also what you feel comfortable with. I try to forget the first part of that and go with the second. But it's not always easy to separate and I totally relate to your dilemma.
I can relate to this one so much. I couldn't decide whether I wanted to look like an urban professional, a suburban soccer mom, a spin-class siren or a total slob. So I went to Pinterest for some inspiration, and then let my own preferences on any given day decide.