Thank you for submitting this. I can feel your guilt and I wish I had a good way to alleviate it – I carry so much of it myself for things I did or didn't do. Maybe someone here has advice for how we can let it go and move on.
If I were him, I'd be praying nobody heard!! When I get into an accident like that, I get a surge of fight or flight energy and my first instinct is to rip the head off anyone who talks to me... injuries are less painful when I'm not fighting the urge to do that
What a fascinating take! I think the person who wrote this was assuming that the guy who fell felt the way that they might feel in that situation – I do that all the time and then I have to remind myself that we are all different with different reactions to the same circumstances.
Same! I think everyone does, but I love the people who make the attempt to remind themselves that others react differently… the people who scare me are the ones who don’t seem to be able to fathom that at all.
I’m currently living with a roommate who thinks her cleanliness standards are the Right Way and mine are the Wrong Way - and I don’t even know how to begin to explain that there’s no such thing, just different people with different viewpoints who need to come to a compromise
Thank you for submitting this. I can feel your guilt and I wish I had a good way to alleviate it – I carry so much of it myself for things I did or didn't do. Maybe someone here has advice for how we can let it go and move on.
One thought is that maybe he didn't want help??
If I were him, I'd be praying nobody heard!! When I get into an accident like that, I get a surge of fight or flight energy and my first instinct is to rip the head off anyone who talks to me... injuries are less painful when I'm not fighting the urge to do that
What a fascinating take! I think the person who wrote this was assuming that the guy who fell felt the way that they might feel in that situation – I do that all the time and then I have to remind myself that we are all different with different reactions to the same circumstances.
Same! I think everyone does, but I love the people who make the attempt to remind themselves that others react differently… the people who scare me are the ones who don’t seem to be able to fathom that at all.
I’m currently living with a roommate who thinks her cleanliness standards are the Right Way and mine are the Wrong Way - and I don’t even know how to begin to explain that there’s no such thing, just different people with different viewpoints who need to come to a compromise
I hear you! The whole idea of right and wrong and good and bad isn't productive. Instead of labeling things, let's just work them out.