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A couple of years ago, I sold the diamond out of my engagement ring and had it replaced with a fake because I wanted the money instead. I told some good friends I knew would not say anything to my wife. We split up recently – separated, supposedly working on it, not yet divorced, but I am already interested in another friend (one of the ones I told the secret to). I don't see ever getting back together with my wife. I'm glad I got the money and spent it how I wanted and now I'm tempted to give her back the ring when we divide things up from our old apartment so that I can take some of the better artwork. I don't feel guilty about it, but I also don't want to say it to anyone because my plan would be ruined if she found out. And I'm not saying it to my new love either, because what would she think of me and what I might do to her one day.
I always think it is interesting - and maybe not uncommmon? - to enter into a relationship with a deception already that you intend to keep. It sounds like it might be hard to do. But maybe not for you?