I'm so excited to be the first person to comment on this, because I know exactly how you feel. All through high school and into college, I felt like I was supposed to intuitively know how to kiss and I just didn't so I think I put too much focus on it, which made me worse at it. One guy I dated in high school dated my friend Leah after and told her she was the best kisser – which I attributed to her being a floutist, something else I was never going to be (I played the violin). And then my brilliant college friend Stephen Treffinger told me to pretend like I was kissing with my whole body instead of my lips, which worked! So I'll pass that advice on to you in case it helps. And if not, don't stress and have fun trying.
I am pinching myself that this reader and others are getting kissing advice from THE Stephen Treffinger!! I can vouch for the fact that this method has worked beautifully for me for more than 40 years! I don't think I was told the part about the liking the person, though, so I'll have to try that next. I love you!
Stephen Treffinger here. Kissing with your whole body is a kind of meditative activity, i.e., you're doing one thing but kind of thinking about another, transferring the energy from one into the other. Or something. Anyhow, I think it really makes kissing better. Another factor is REALLY liking the person you're kissing 😀 (instead of just thinking they're hot!)
My husband wants to know if you remember him from high school! (Kevin Malling) For the record, he's an excellent kisser but I don't think he had the same teacher, but I could be wrong . . .
Kissing is overrated imo!! I like it sometimes, but I hate that for most people it’s pretty much always the precursor to sex. You can have great sex without kissing!!!
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I'm so excited to be the first person to comment on this, because I know exactly how you feel. All through high school and into college, I felt like I was supposed to intuitively know how to kiss and I just didn't so I think I put too much focus on it, which made me worse at it. One guy I dated in high school dated my friend Leah after and told her she was the best kisser – which I attributed to her being a floutist, something else I was never going to be (I played the violin). And then my brilliant college friend Stephen Treffinger told me to pretend like I was kissing with my whole body instead of my lips, which worked! So I'll pass that advice on to you in case it helps. And if not, don't stress and have fun trying.
I am pinching myself that this reader and others are getting kissing advice from THE Stephen Treffinger!! I can vouch for the fact that this method has worked beautifully for me for more than 40 years! I don't think I was told the part about the liking the person, though, so I'll have to try that next. I love you!
Stephen Treffinger here. Kissing with your whole body is a kind of meditative activity, i.e., you're doing one thing but kind of thinking about another, transferring the energy from one into the other. Or something. Anyhow, I think it really makes kissing better. Another factor is REALLY liking the person you're kissing 😀 (instead of just thinking they're hot!)
I’m going to try this
Thanks, horse. Let me know how it goes.
IHTM: Stephen Treffinger taught me how to kiss via Jane Pratt
Hahaha. I just sent that to him. He will die. But he deserves all the credit.
My husband wants to know if you remember him from high school! (Kevin Malling) For the record, he's an excellent kisser but I don't think he had the same teacher, but I could be wrong . . .
I remember him! I never kissed him (that I recall), so I couldn't say. But I trust your opinion! And I'm glad to hear from you.
Kissing is overrated imo!! I like it sometimes, but I hate that for most people it’s pretty much always the precursor to sex. You can have great sex without kissing!!!
Agreed!
How can anything online be a safe place when you live in a place where you cannot keep a computer phone or tablet safe. Not possible, like safety online big concern yet Canada post po boxes no cameras. Designed with stupid holes sorry fraud excuses